Saturday, July 28, 2012

The Invisible String

Our good friend Becky brought over a gift for Evelyn.  It is a book called “The Invisible String”. 

The book talks about a string that connects people who love each other.  When we think about them it gives a little tug, and when they feel it, they can tug it right back.  It talks about strings that can reach all the way to those who have passed from this world.
So last night, we all sat on the couch.
I tied one string end of a string around Evelyn’s wrist.
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And the other around Rowan’s.
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And so they were bound by a string.
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And we read the story.
At the end of the story I clipped the connecting string, leaving them with a bracelet.  One on Rowan’s wrist, one on Evelyn’s. I told Evelyn that even though the string we could see was gone, the love we have for Rowan won’t ever be gone.  We will always love him and he will always love us.
Shortly after, she got up and took her bracelet off.  (She’s not a giant fan of jewelry).  That’s ok. I kept her bracelet.  It sits in my jewelry box for when she is older, and we read the book again.  I am going to bind the pictures inside the book, along with an envelope for her bracelet.
After the book, Evelyn and Rowan and Doc and I all snuggled in our giant bed. 
She may not understand the string yet….
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…but she held her sleeping brother’s hand.
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because she does understand love.

11 comments:

  1. Wow. You are an amazing family. One day she will understand and be grateful for the time she spent with him. Your strength is unbelievable and the love you share, unbreakable. Thank you for sharing your journey. Candle still lit here in MI. Sending love.....

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  2. I've never met Becky, but she sounds simply amazing. That is such a sweet gift and another wonderful moment for you to treasure.

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  3. My candle is still lit for Rowan. I've walked in your shoes before, so I know what you're going through. Hang in there momma ((hugs))

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  4. I lost my brother 24 years ago and in those 24 years, not a day has gone by when I don't think of him; most days I still talk to him. He is never far. He has been there with me through every change (and there has been alot of that!), every milestone. He was there when I gave birth to his nephew, his namesake. I feel him everywhere. It will be the same for Evelyn. Rowan will always be with her. She will carry him wherever she goes. Yes the strings can be cut, but the bond is unbreakable. This is love and it is stronger than death.

    So happy you are building these beautiful memories with your children. So happy for the time. A candle is still lit here in California and will remain so. We treasure Rowan... Evelyn, your whole family. You have been a gift to us all. Thank you for continuing to share your amazing family with us.

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  5. I saw your story on the The Bump. Now I cannot stop reading your blog. We have never met, but you are an amazing person. I've been praying for you and your family continuously. I pray that God will continue to give you the strength you need and that He gives you the comfort you need.
    Thank you for sharing your story and being such a great example of love, strength, courage... a truly amazing mother.
    I will keep praying for you.

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  6. Just beautiful. Love you Twin! Still thinking of you guys and praying as well.

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  7. Thinking and praying for you all! Beautiful family, beautiful children

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  8. We love that book too. Just lit a candle tonight. It's shining bright.

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  9. My prayer for you is this:
    I pray for strength for you for the time when you must have the strength to say goodbye to your wonderful son.
    I pray for understanding for your little girl that she will understand that her baby brother has gone to be with Jesus.
    I pray for healing for your broken heart, as there will be a million pieces to pick up when you have to say "I love you" that one last time.
    I pray for peace for you and your family as you struggle with all of the inevitable questions and comments regarding your choices.
    And last, but definitely not least, I pray for comfort for you, your son, and your family.

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  10. Awwwww.... that is so sweet! I am bawling. Praying for comfort for you all. Our candle is still burning bright for Rowan.

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